Archive for August, 2010

The day after the night before


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A family affair – looking for ancestors online

Once I found out that the birth records of my grandmother, my father’s mother, still existed, I learned a lot more about my ancestors. I had already found a lot just by googling, but to verify, I needed official documents.  And I got them. She had a very long familytree.  Her niece recently told me my grandmother was aware of her familyroots, but it was never spoken about when I was a child. It was not important of course, it played no role.

It still isn’t important or something to boast about or anything like that, but it just is a thrill for me to go back so far, and learn about so many historical people I only knew from history books! And to think – they are all in the family! lol

My living family again is totally not interested in this familytree I am so proudly reconstructing, they don’t understand why I spend hours on row just spitting for old bones. They think it is crazy. But worldwide there are many other people just as crazy as I am, so at least online I can share a lot of my enthousiasm.

Now of those many ancestors that I never met, my favorite is Aleid van Avesnes aka Aleid van Holland, buried 12 April 1284, daughter of Floris IV of Holland and Machteld of Brabant  and married to Jan van Avesnes.

My interest for her is not just because of  her role in the history of the Netherlands, but also because she had an amazing line of ancestors, a real treassure for genealogists. William the Conqueror, Alfred the Great, Charlemagne! David 1 of Scotland. A trip through history, and Shakespeare’s MacBeth will never be the same to me.

But how to find a face that goes with the figure?

I googled of course, but I just got some vague figure on a coin, and a statue of hers that was made much later, so there is no telling what she must have looked like.

If somehow a painting exists of her, I would love to see it! So that is what I am trying to find. A painting portraying Aleid. If I ever find it, I will show you 

Duncan 1, also hanging somewhere in the tree  🙂

The gesture

After missing the 3.00 pm ferry from Harlingen to Terschelling by only a few minutes, I ensconced myself in a chair in the restaurant overlooking the quay. It was almost the last day of the year.

I watched the ferry I should have been on disappear in the fog and, knowing that I had to wait for the fast one that wasn’t due for another few hours, I decided to order some tomato soup as an excuse for me being there. This hour of the day there weren’t many people in the restaurant, just a grumpy couple of young waitresses, both of them wanting to get the rest of the day off, and a waiter, who looked as if he was ready to commit homicide.

For several times he inspected his watch. He rose his eyebrows, for me, a customer, being there on this unusual hour, realized his colleges were still arguing, sighed and reluctantly took my order, hating his job. He went to the kitchen and stayed away for more than 20 minutes. Meanwhile I took the book I had purchased earlier that day out of my bag.

As I was reading the promising cover, I didn’t notice that an elderly couple had entered and taken seats at the table nearest to mine; not until I had opened the book and sniffed up the smell of ink, that is.
I do that sometimes, sniffing up the scent of a new book. I even had my eyes closed, and when I opened them I realized the woman had seen me doing it. Her look was that of a frozen canary.

Embarrassed because she had found out about my secret pleasure I started reading, but every now and then I took a glimpse at the couple. They had put their coats over an empty chair and both stared in a different direction.
She was about sixty, and she obviously had had a life of disappointments. Her mouth was the opposite of a smiley, her face had deep rivers of grieve.

I could only see the mans neck, as he had halfway turned his back at her and explored the foggy sky above the water of the harbour with great interest, although there was nothing to see. He had a stubborn kind of neck that would not turn his head around. No matter what.

It was getting dark. They said nothing. They were married, they wore the same golden rings that had lost their shine.
The soup was brought, I paid the waiter and waited patiently for my change that had to come from deep out of his wallet. Then he turned to the woman and did that thing with his eyebrows again, this time in an asking manner.
“Yes?” he said demandingly.
“Coffee, please,” she replied with a dark brown voice. “Just coffee. No sugar for him. Three lumps for me.”

Her husband hawked but then stayed silent. A few moments later their cups of coffee were sort of thrown on the table by the waiter, and no need to say he could forget about a tip. Again.
An hour went by. Two hours went by. Outside it was totally dark, the gloomy sound of the foghorn was all we heard, that and the noise of pots and pans in the kitchen. Other people started to come in, filling the room with more noises and the smell of wet coats. The man and the woman remained silent.

We could hear the fast ferry entering port. Most people arose, but like the couple that was in no hurry and had no luggage with them, I stayed put, me to do some more reading, as the vessel had to disembark first. Not that I liked the book, it was in fact rather disappointing and I soon looked away again.
Then I saw her right-hand. She placed it on the softly trembling left hand of her husband and he didn’t remove his, as I had expected him to do. This unexpected gesture, implying a sort of tenderness, kept me looking, and all of the sudden her eyes met mine. I was too late to look away and now, again, we shared a secret.
I smiled, she smiled back. Then he briskly stood up, took his coat and walked out of the restaurant. She looked all frozen again and followed him outside. They sort of vanished in opposite direction of the ferry.

I put the book in my bag, waited a bit until I was sure it was about time to go on board and left the restaurant. Outside I saw one of the two waitresses and the waiter. Both apparently had the night off and they had put their arms around each other, laughing quite happily. He looked a lot nicer now.
When I stepped on board, just in time, I suddenly realized: you can’t judge a book by looking at its cover. 😉

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